Thursday, January 31, 2008

Alcohol, Addictions and Etc...More than just challenges...need for action

Date Story Submitted: Thursday, January 31, 2008

Freezing death of two girls shines light on Sask. reserve in disarray

REGINA - The freezing deaths of two young girls has shone a harsh light on a "bankrupt" Saskatchewan reserve with a litany of social problems and a leadership at war with itself.

"I think we are going to need some help," Chief Robert Whitehead of the Yellow Quill First Nation said in a telephone interview Thursday. "The situation we are in, it's a sad situation."

As police continued to investigate the deaths of three-year-old Kaydance Pauchay and her one-year-old sister Santana in a snowy field early Tuesday morning, politicians, the community and its leaders were looking at the problems behind the tragedy.

The need for action was a common thread - what to do was more elusive.

Problems such as alcohol abuse, suicide, lack of housing and mould plague the community.

The band also has money troubles. In 1999 runaway deficits forced the federal government put the reserve under third-party management to maintain services for its residents. It's remained there since.

"Basically we are a bankrupt community," Whitehead said.

Adding to the issues is an internal power struggle between the chief and band councillors that both sides say is "toxic."

Whitehead said he was confronted Thursday by council members who are angry that the chief has been so publicly vocal about the reserve's problem in the wake of the girls' deaths.

"When you have an opposition in council, what they go around doing is, while I'm out there working trying to do this and trying to do that, trying to set something up for the people, my opposition has all the time in the world to be going around spreading gossip on the reserve," Whitehead said. "What do they have to hide?"

But band councillor Donna Poorman blames the chief for the problems, saying the situation has reach a point where the council isn't even meeting regularly anymore.

"He's just basically trying to run the reserve on his own forgetting about the rest of us leaders," Poorman said. "It's just not working."

Poorman said many of the problems on the reserve relate to drugs and alcohol and a cycle of abuse that stems from residential schools.

Faced with increasing suicide rates, the band recently tried to move ahead with a bylaw banning alcohol on the reserve, but the proper paperwork was never filed with the federal government.

Alcohol is said to be at the centre of this week's tragedy.

Police say they believe the girls' father, Christopher Pauchay, 25, left his home with the children in the wee hours of Tuesday morning when wind chills were in the -50C range.

He managed to make it to a neighbour's house suffering from frostbite and hypothermia. The two girls were found in the field wearing only T-shirts and diapers. Family members say Pauchay was drinking that night.

Whitehead said Thursday that he would still like to move ahead with the alcohol ban.

But federal Indian Affairs Minister Chuck Strahl expressed doubt that such a ban would solve all the problems.

"It's very complex. Sometimes these communities have a multitude of issues they're dealing with. So just passing a bylaw doesn't make the world all right," Strahl said.

"It's

Monday, January 28, 2008

On The Wagon

"On The Wagon," I was at work with all of my co-workers after a big meeting we had, I left before things got worse (most were getting pretty drunk). I noticed that a few took note of that when I left. I didn't think anything of it at the time. Today though, someone asked "How long have you been on the wagon?" of one of the ones who had been there that night, and then added that the other person I had noticed watch me that night also had been on the wagon since that night also. Sometimes I think drinking is more about peer pressure, than about wanting to drink. I feel good knowing that a small thing can help someone else have a little courage to do something too. It 's nice, and am glad that my decision to never drink can be a help instead of just something to get annoyed or upset about.

Some other things have happened too, some co-workers said that they have started to read Christian books and they had never done that before, and I can't and won't take credit for all of that, but I do know it is the same as the drinking, sometimes courage increases when you know you have support (others around who believe too).

It was nice to know...at a time when I feel so tired...been a busy time again...and some hard transitions for my son...still far from being over, and its not easy...a little light...but even a little light counts...

Sunday, January 6, 2008

"Comfort, Memory Food!"

"Comfort, Memory Food" I think I have a new phrase "Comfort, Memory Food"...lol...this Christmas it has been over a year since my mom and my Kokum have passed away, and in the moments during this season my emotions were triggered by missing them, and the way that I chose to act out that missing them was wanting the food that they used to make for us on special occasions...my mom used to make tapioca when we were little and my Kokum used to make rice pudding...I know it may sound corny, but we all have our comfort food, but for a moment I indulged in the "Comfort, Memory Food," that they used to prepare for us...it makes for a nice warm memory and moment, if you allow it to...I know for some they indulge because they are hurting, but for me, it was just to remember the tender loving care that they used to take to make something that they used to take the time to make for us...

Anyway, Happy Holidays to everyone, and for the moments that you build with your children, remember that they really do count, and they come back for them in the future in ways that may feel very special.

"Comfort, Memory Food!"....mmm...lol...Yeah...I think I like that...

Thursday, January 3, 2008

Time Has Wings...

Time is something that suddenly has wings the speed your life up with intensity
It is like a breath that suddenly goes by you, because you may feel it but you do not always see it pass by

I blinked and the weeks sped by and the moments pass too quickly

I look at my son and in the fall he will start Kindergarten...time has gone by too fast...my little boy is growing up sooooo, quickly...

I need a way to make time stand still, perhaps I will get an idea or two....lol